Imago Theory

The Blessing of Boundaries

The couple sits in the restaurant, their eyes shining, hands entwined.  Time seems to stand still as they share their deepest dreams.  All else disappears …

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Stop – Don’t Push That Button

It’s been a long day.  You are tired, frustrated and have a headache just waiting to take over.  Your partner walks in the door and …

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Approaching Your Relationship from a Place of Gratitude

I often start sessions with couples by encouraging them to share with each other one thing that they have done for the relationship that they …

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Moving Through the Fear to Risk Connection

Human beings are “wired for connection.”  When we have safe, loving, supportive relationships we thrive.  We are healthier, we experience less stress, and we feel …

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Entering the Zone of Zero Negativity

At the recent Imago Relationships International conference Harville Hendrix and Helen Lakelly Hunt, the founders of Imago Relationship Therapy, shared their own journey from painful …

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The Cycle of Despair – The Cycle of Healing

In my first marriage I was truly an expert at causing my husband pain.  Indeed we began tearing each other apart with our words long …

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Delving into Empathy

Of all the skills necessary for vibrant loving relationships I think that empathy is the most important, yet I find it one of the hardest …

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Oxytocin, morality, trust and empathy

In the Imago Getting the Love You Want workshop we talk a lot about the importance of empathy in sustaining loving relationships.  On the second …

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The transformative power of Intentional Dialogue

Recently Tim Atkinson, the Executive Director of Imago Relationships International, shared the following personal reflections on his experience with Intentional Dialogue in moments of conflict.  …

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Validation and Empathy in Thought Word and Deed

  In Gary Chapman’s intriguing book, “The Five Languages of Love,” he explores how people express and receive love in different ways.  He identifies five …

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